Buch-Review - Hannes Kleist - 17.12.2019
How we pay attention to the present moment largely determines the character of our experience and, therefore, the quality of our lives. Truly wanting him to be happy made his happiness my own.
Our conventional sense of self is an illusion; positive emotions, such as compassion and patience, are teachable skills; and the way we think directly influences our experience of the world. It is possible to be at ease in the world for no reason, if only for a few moments at a time, We grasp at transitory pleasures. We brood about the past and worry about the future. We continually seek to prop up and defend an egoic self that doesn’t exist.
This requires that we actively produce the feeling of anger. We do this by thinking about our reasons for being angry — recalling an insult, rehearsing what we should have said to our malefactor, and so forth.
Merely accepting that we are lazy, distracted, petty, easily provoked to anger, and inclined to waste our time in ways that we will later regret is not a path to happiness. You are anxious before giving a speech, become willing to feel the anxiety fully, so that it becomes a meaningless pattern of energy in your mind and body.